Code of conduct

01 Consent is the whole thing

• Ask before you touch anyone. This includes their gear. Someone's kit is not an invitation — a lot of people put serious money and meaning into what they're wearing, and grabbing at it without asking is the fastest way to get shown the door.
• Get a clear yes. Not silence, not a shrug, not "I guess." If you're not sure, you don't have consent yet.
• Negotiate before you play. Limits, safewords, what's on and off the table, how long. Do this while everyone is clear-headed and before anything starts.
• Anyone can stop anything, any time. No reason required, no explanation owed, no hard feelings expected. "Stop" means stop instantly.
• Consent doesn't carry over. Yes last night isn't yes tonight. Yes to one thing isn't yes to another. Yes to one person isn't yes to their friend.

02 Don't play impaired

We're not serving alcohol, but the resort bar is right there and Vegas is Vegas. Drink if you want — just don't tie anyone up afterward.

• No bondage, restraint, or similar activity while you're impaired.
• Don't start anything with someone who seems impaired, even if they're enthusiastic about it. Especially then.
• Illegal drugs aren't permitted at the event.

If you're unsure whether someone's good to play, the answer is no. Come back to it tomorrow.

03 In the play area

• Safety shears stay within reach any time someone's restrained.
• Never leave a restrained person alone. Not for a minute, not to grab a drink.
• Don't interrupt a scene. If you have a concern, get a monitor — don't insert yourself. Monitors are on duty in the play area and will be clearly identifiable.
• If a monitor stops you, stop. You can ask why afterward. Argue in the moment and you're done for the weekend.
• Clean up after yourself — wipe down anything you used.
• Watching is fine. Hovering isn't. Give people room. If someone's clearly not enjoying an audience, move along.

04 Cameras

• Ask every person who'd be in the shot. Every time.
• No photos at all in the play area or locker areas, even of yourself, if anyone else might be in frame.
• Don't post anything of another attendee anywhere, ever, without their explicit okay.
• Don't post photos or videos naming or identifying the resort, or any other venue or vendor affiliated with the event, to social media or any other public site. This includes signage, exteriors, addresses, or anything else that would let someone identify the location. Some of our venues and vendors have specifically asked not to be publicly associated with this event, and honoring that keeps them willing to work with us again.

Official event photographers will be identifiable and will only shoot people who've opted in.

05 Privacy

What happens here stays here, and so does who was here.

• Don't out anyone. Don't confirm someone's attendance to anyone outside the event.
• Use whatever name someone gives you. Don't dig for their legal one.
• Don't run into someone at the airport and shout their scene name across the terminal. Use your judgment.

06 Basic respect

• All gear, all crews welcome. Moto, hockey, football, baseball, turnout, or something we haven't thought of. Nobody's gear is more legitimate than anyone else's, and gatekeeping isn't welcome here.
• Harassment isn't tolerated — not based on race, ethnicity, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, body type, age, disability, religion, or what kind of gear someone's into.
• "No" is a complete sentence. Don't negotiate against it, don't ask again later, don't send a friend to ask.
• Don't yuck someone's yum. Something's not your thing? Fine. Move on quietly.

07 Respect the resort

We have the whole property, which is great — and it means the staff are watching how we treat it.

• Resort staff are working, not attending. Normal clothes-on courtesy applies with them, always.
• Follow resort rules for pools, gym, and spa.
• Keep gear and play in designated areas. Common areas stay at a level you'd be fine explaining to a hotel manager.
• Don't damage the property. You'll be liable for it, and it jeopardizes us ever doing this again.

08 If something goes wrong

Find a staff member or monitor. They'll be clearly identifiable and they're there for exactly this.

• You can report something without giving your name.
• You can report something that happened to someone else.
• You can report something you're not sure "counts." Let us sort that out — you don't have to be certain to say something.
• Reports are taken seriously and handled discreetly.

Nobody gets punished for reporting in good faith.

09 Consequences

Depending on what happened, we may warn you, remove you from an area, remove you from the event without a refund, ban you from future events, or contact law enforcement.

The organizers make these calls, and we don't debate them on-site.

10 Medical or emergency

Tell a staff member immediately. Don't worry about the event's nature — getting someone help matters more than discretion, and staff will handle it as privately as circumstances allow.